It's all about, YOU!

It's not about what people do to you...ultimately it's about what you do to and for yourself.
People will hurt you! The question is will you hurt you? Learning to trust yourself and learning to be intentional to yourself will change the focus of things in your life. Number 1 priority is you. When you are good to yourself it is easier for you to be good to others. Think about how much you invested into a relationship and it gave you no return. Invest in yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. The return will be great.

Think about this...when was the last time another person disappointed you? When was the last time you disappointed yourself? How often do you let yourself down? I have realized that I am hardly ever disappointed in people but disappointed in myself for allowing the let-down to occur. But then I realized some people have hurt me because they were hurt and it actually had nothing to do with me. If you are allowing someone to cause you pain...is it that persons fault or your own because you are ignoring your self-worth to make someone else happy.

I've had to realize that the power is mine and everything is a choice. The choice to stop complaining. The choice to receive and accept peace.  The choice to be happy. All of it is hard - but it is a choice. Being upset and bitter is a choice as well and I would rather choose working on being at peace.
Every habit, every thought, every move we make and step we take is a choice.
Choose to put yourself first just once and watch how you choose this every day.

As a young woman, there are times when I know it's not my fault but still I am considered at fault by someone else's standards. What do I do when this happens to me...I move on. It is hard to move on but sulking sucks. Only thing that comes from sulking is more sulking...as a man thinketh in his heart he is. Sometimes you have no choice but to move on. When it is time for things to make an exit out of your life - nothing you can do can stop it. Doesn't matter how much you love it, doesn't matter how much you need it, want it. Let it go. God is pruning you for your breakthrough.
In order to get better, you have to work at it. You have to apply the same pressure to yourself that you are applying to everything it is that you want or think you need.

The hardest lesson I ever had to learn was that nobody has to be there for you. Nobody has to do anything for you and quite frankly I am tired of being let down with expectations from others to do anything for me. I expect for me to be great but I don't expect anyone to get me there if they do I am grateful. Gratitude is better than expectations. I am grateful for what is given to me and I am grateful for what has been taken away from me. But my expectations for another will not supersede my expectations for self.